This Valentine’s Day Be Selfish (Well, Kind Of)

In recent years, self-care seems to have become a buzzword, especially among women. From online articles published on the current obsession with self-care to Solange’s song titled Borderline (Ode to Self-Care), this practice is permeating our current culture. On the surface, the word or phrase itself may sound selfish. The true nature of self-care is not selfish at all, though.

Self-care is any activity we do deliberately to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it’s a simple concept in theory, as a wife, mother, business owner and more, I know all too well how self-care can often be overlooked. However, self-care is key to improved mood, and reduced stress and anxiety. It is a vital part of optimal health and key to maintaining a good relationship with ourselves and others.

Self-Care is considering our own needs first. It’s about knowing what we need to do in order to take care of ourselves, so that we are able to take care of those who depend on us as well. Self-care refuels us. There is a saying - you can’t pour from an empty cup. Simply put, if we don’t take care of ourselves, we won’t be able to give anything to others. We won’t be able to take care of our loved ones, and could potentially become a burden instead of a help.

When we think of putting ourselves first for any reason, some people may still consider it selfish. In our February edition, for the sake of prioritizing self-care, I am challenging you to do just that - BE SELFISH (well, kind of). Here are a few ways to do so!

Add YOU to your calendar.

Incorporate activities like lunch and spa dates in your planner or calendar to increase your commitment. Self-care needs to be something you actively plan, rather than something that just happens. It is an active choice and you must treat it as such.


Contrary to what many people think, exercise is as good for our emotional health as it is for our physical health. It increases serotonin levels which leads to improved mood and energy. In order to stay in line with your self-care, it’s important that you choose a form of exercise that you like. For example, yoga is an effective self care practice that can help you clear your mind and relax your body!

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The most practical thing that we can do to prioritize self care is to get a good night's sleep. Not only will you feel rejuvenated, but sleep can also assist with dropping those unwanted or stubborn pounds. According to SelectHealth, the less sleep you get, the more your hormones that regulate hunger, leptin and ghrelin, are negatively affected. Leptin signals your brain that you’re full. If your leptin is not doing its job properly, you won’t know if you’re satisfied and have eaten enough food. Ghrelin is the hormone that tells your brain that you’re hungry. A lack of quality sleep disrupts the normal regulation of these hormones which makes it tough for you to know whether you’re legitimately hungry when your hormones aren’t operating properly. So aim to get a quality night's rest, CONSISTENTLY.

Make SELF a priority.

Prioritize your wellness. You’ll be surprised how much better you FEEL, PERFORM, and SERVE others when you properly refuel yourself! So, this Valentine’s Day, while you’re being selfish, you’ll actually find that you’re not being selfish at all. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup!

Until next month, be well!

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